Many wives these days are facing resentment and aversion from their husbands and are left with this difficult question in their marriage, Why my husband hates me?. If is quite difficult to know and understand the hate of our husbands. At times we may assume that it is the anger at something that is being shown as hate and aversion.
One other question regarding hate that comes to our mind is, Is my husband hating just some aspect of me or is he hating me completely!
It is really painful and sad when we hear and are living through the “hate” from our husband in our married lives.
Does your husband behave in such as way that he shows aversion and resentment towards you?
“Did your husband say that he hates you right on your face?”
The first step to know the reasons and fix this issue is to understand and analyze the things that are happening in our married life that is forcing our husband to say such hurtful things to us.
Try to find out the exacts reasons for the question, “Why my husband hates me?” lies a lot within ourselves simply by questioning and analyzing ourselves as to how we speak, act and behave with our husbands and what kind of attitude we are showing to him on a regular basis.
Also one of the common question that comes to wives who are facing hate and dislike issues from their husbands in their marriage are,
What really is the anger and frustration all about in our husband that he has to hate me!!
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# First Find out the reasons for your husband’s dislike and hate:
You may find your husband making himself detached and unaffectionate, speaking and showing actions of hatred towards you. Its really critical for you to look at your attitude and behavior and see what may have caused your husband to act that way to you. Is it really because of my fault? Is he keeping in mind something and acting it out?
Now you must ask yourself questions like;
- Am I trying to get my husband’s full attention all the time?
- Am I relying totally on my husband for each and every thing in my life?
– Am I clinging and nagging my husband too much?
- Am I pestering him always to make every decision for me?
So as the first thing you need to find and understand the fundamental reasons for your husband’s resentment and hate towards you. I am sure many of the wives at times will be really surprised to know the real reasons behind the hate and the dislike, which could be really small and even silly. Most of the times you may find out that, it is some behavior or attitude of yours that puts your husband off. And he is expressing his dislike to that in a totally wrong fashion. Know how you can save your marriage today and change his hate to love and affection.
# Knowing and working on the issues in you that your husband hates:
Hope by now you would have already known what your husband hates in you and why. Some husbands tend to tell that directly to you? Also some of them find it hard to tell that on the face of their wives. And the hatred reveals itself on every other interaction with us, which is even harder to bear.
Run through how the last few days were with your husband. How did he behave with you? What are the things that upset him? What were the reasons for the arguments and fights, if there were any? How good was your attitude and behavior towards your husband?
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One of the common and ignored reasons why lot of people are having issues in their marriage is as years pass by, we at times tend not to “actively” listen to our husbands any more.
Remember in some cases the husbands are just reacting to the way how we are to them.
# Is my husband’s hate due to me nagging him?
Lot of we wives knowingly or unknowingly “nag” our husbands. And we don’t really realize that we have the habit of complaining and nagging unless someone tells us on our FACE.
So I would advise you to sit down and analyze your situation; and give a long thought as to how your behavior is to your husband on a daily basis. Do a Check on your manners and behavior towards your spouse and don’t do anything that could anger or annoy him. Also please keep in mind that as hate keeps building up against you from your husband’s side, your marriage could be in a lot of trouble going forward. Check here how you can win back the love of your husband.
# Change your behaviors and attitude & Get over your Husband’s hate:
It is instinctive for us to think that when a couple lose their love, affection and interest in each other and have a habit of getting into arguments more often, their marriage will surely end up in a break up or divorce.
This need NOT have to be true as many of the marriages have been brought back from the brink of a break up/ separation and divorce by changing simple behaviors and attitudes along with a little change in expectation.
The most critical thing here is to understand that, what is more important is how much willing and ready we are to make those changes in us that our husband hates.
To win back the love and affection of our husband and restore the peace and happiness in our married life WE BOTH need to change. But the CRITICAL thing to understand here is; the change in us will create a change in them. And let’s start the change from us now. And see him change slowly and for sure.
# Have hope and Cheer Up – Your husband’s aversion and dislike will go away soon
This is a very significant part on your process to overcome your husband’s hate. The main thing is you need to have confidence in your that you can change things around in your marriage with your patience and persistence and lots of efforts; and mainly having the knowledge of how to turn your husband’s hate into love.
So please do not get disheartened by the things and issues happening now in your marriage.
Do engrave this to your heart. The most important thing for you to know to save your marriage and to make our husband love and care for us and not hate us is to show your husband lots of love, care and affection but not in a clinging and nagging way.
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